Dear Fresh Meat,
Thank you so much for joining our league! I am so glad you finally took that plunge, to try something "completely crazy" and put wheels on your feet to learn a new sport! You may not realize this now, but all us veterans have been exactly where you are! We were new girls, whose families either supported us 100 million percent, or they were scared for us, or didn't understand, but trusted us anyway. We were all excited when we laced up those skates, and strapped on that safety gear. Don't forget the mouthguard :-). I was so happy to see you all last night trying those hard things over and over again. It makes my heart happy to see you all. I believe you are doing one of the most important things you can do for yourself on earth. There are things you will learn about yourself, sides to yourself you never knew you had. There is a fierce side of you that is on its way out and once it gets out, your life will change. And inevitably there will come a time when someone will try to cage your fierce beast. DO NOT LET THEM!!! Do not get bogged down by anyone in this world, or by the politics of roller derby. And in my opinion there is only one way to stay out of that bog, and that is to be the one to constantly help build up your derby sisters. You are not here to compete with anyone but yourself. Be better tomorrow than you were today, fall trying something new, then get up and try again until you don't fall anymore. Encourage your sisters, always, because that's what we are my friends sisters. The moment you strapped on those skates, you became my sister, and I love my sisters!!!! So again, thank you freshies, meat, rollerbabies, thank you for joining my derby family, our derby family. Love, Slugs, and bruisess.
Gypsy Girl
Wednesday, September 3, 2014
Tuesday, September 2, 2014
morning ramblings.....body loving = body shaming
disclaimer: this is being typed on my phone, excuse spelling and grammatical errors please!!!
Its early in the morning, I am sitting in the parking lot at my church while my oldest is in early morning seminary. I am listening to Kidd Kraddick In The Morning, and occasionally there is a music break. Well during the last one, my local radio station played that super cute song "All About That Bass", I love this song for a lot of reasons, one of which is how stinking cute the gal is who sings it, and how as a non "stick figure silicone Barbie doll", even when I am at a healthy weight, I am in love with the message. Then I thought about my daughter. She IS skinny, she will always be a skinny, tiny girl. She is shaped just like her grandmother and great grandmothers, both of who had an 18 inch waist. And I began to think, and worry that my love for this song, which leads to a conversation about weight and size and what men want etc, may someday have a negative effect on her self esteem. I am not saying folks should not love their bodies, but there is a line in the song that says, "my mama said boys like a little more booty to hold at night", what future effects could that statement have on my daughter? I started to think about how I should not make such a big deal about being fat, round, soft, bootylicious, curvy etc. I just had a baby, and am very physically uncomfortable with my leftover baby weight, I am exercising so its going away, but still, I don't like it, so I am not a "love my out of shape body" type person. But it got me thinking, that there are people out there, who love their curves to the point of making girls who are thin, feel like boys won't like them because of claims that men don't want a bone to hold at night etc. I don't ever want my daughter to feel there is anything wrong with being thin. And I am feeling super guilty for going on about this song the other day. I guess my point is, body loving is sometimes shaming on someone else. Love your body for sure, but don't be a cause of pain for someone else by implying that a man wont like a woman who is opposite your body type. I have had the unique opportunity this morning to see this from both sides. Just a thought. Happy Tuesday!!!
Its early in the morning, I am sitting in the parking lot at my church while my oldest is in early morning seminary. I am listening to Kidd Kraddick In The Morning, and occasionally there is a music break. Well during the last one, my local radio station played that super cute song "All About That Bass", I love this song for a lot of reasons, one of which is how stinking cute the gal is who sings it, and how as a non "stick figure silicone Barbie doll", even when I am at a healthy weight, I am in love with the message. Then I thought about my daughter. She IS skinny, she will always be a skinny, tiny girl. She is shaped just like her grandmother and great grandmothers, both of who had an 18 inch waist. And I began to think, and worry that my love for this song, which leads to a conversation about weight and size and what men want etc, may someday have a negative effect on her self esteem. I am not saying folks should not love their bodies, but there is a line in the song that says, "my mama said boys like a little more booty to hold at night", what future effects could that statement have on my daughter? I started to think about how I should not make such a big deal about being fat, round, soft, bootylicious, curvy etc. I just had a baby, and am very physically uncomfortable with my leftover baby weight, I am exercising so its going away, but still, I don't like it, so I am not a "love my out of shape body" type person. But it got me thinking, that there are people out there, who love their curves to the point of making girls who are thin, feel like boys won't like them because of claims that men don't want a bone to hold at night etc. I don't ever want my daughter to feel there is anything wrong with being thin. And I am feeling super guilty for going on about this song the other day. I guess my point is, body loving is sometimes shaming on someone else. Love your body for sure, but don't be a cause of pain for someone else by implying that a man wont like a woman who is opposite your body type. I have had the unique opportunity this morning to see this from both sides. Just a thought. Happy Tuesday!!!
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